How to Be Ms./Mr. Independent
It’s not all fun and games when you want to be more independent, especially when it’s your first time. No parents, no curfew, no rules, BUT we all know what comes with great freedom.
Think of your teenage years are like riding a bike with training wheels. It’s fun, it’s easy, it’s Come your twenties and you feel like the training wheels are off, the world is burning, and the bike you’re riding turns into a unicycle. It’s HARD. We’re here to make it a bit more navigatable!
Pay Your Bills!
Nothing says liberation better than removing yourself from your parents’ budget. If you can’t do full on detachment yet (because let’s admit it, minimum wage/starting rates suxx) do it bit by bit. Start with phone bills, water, food, then electricity. Nothing says Ms./Mr. Independent better than a gal/guy paying through life your own hard earned cash! If you grew up with an allowance from your parents, only accept it if you really, desperately need it. P.S. A round of shots or a crafted cocktail is filed under as a desperate need.
Slowly Cut Off Dependence from Other People
Aside from paying your own bills and managing your budget, which is a major step in being more independent, start by learning to manage your drama on your own. Don’t make every little thing into a major mountain. It’s great to have a backbone team who will support you and listen to you all the time, but you have to learn how to deal with things on your own!
Create a Reliable Relationship With Yourself
Outside of friends, family, and special someone/s, you must first create a nourishing relationship with yourself. Eating lunch on your own is a great way to start. You don’t need to eat with other people every single time. It’s nice to have some me-time in the middle of the day! At the end of the day, being independent means being able to trust in yourself, your capabilities, your strengths, and no one else’s!
Be a Team Player
In any work setting, everyone has a role to play and you’re not meant to play on your own or hog the spotlight every single time. Being independent at work doesn’t mean you’re capable of working on your own. Being independent at work means being a reliable teammate and possibly being that extra employee who goes the extra mile to help others to be more independent!
Have Your Own Thing
To quote the iconic Neyo classic, Ms. Independent got her own thing, that’s why I love her. Nothing is sexier than a human being who has their shit together. Own your own thing, be it a work thing, a passion project, a sideline, whatever it is, OWN IT! Being independent means you’re unapologetically you. If you don;t have your shit together yet, that’s fine! You have time to do that NOW, so go do it!
How are you trying to be more independent? Let us know in the comments section!